Thursday, May 8, 2014

The Mean Side of Blogging

Thursday, May 8, 2014

Thursday, May 8, 2014

Hateful comments can downright suck

When I first started blogging at JessandJill.com, I was shocked at how non-highschool this world was. Especially within the network, everyone is so supportive of one another, and has the most genuine intentions when they help each other grow. Putting yourself out there for the internet to see can be scary. Once my blogging partner and I were accused of being a lesbians, a comment that I believe had some intent to offend, but didn't bother us in the slightest. And? Maybe we are, what's your point? Other than that, my blogging experience has been nothing but positive. Okay, this internet world isn't as scary as they say.

But that didn't last too long.

To hurt my feelings or offend me, takes a lot. I'm not one to go cry in a corner because someone doesn't like me or thinks I'm not worthy of their standards, especially an anonymous person. But to be called a word that rhymes with bore (minus the "b" and add a "wh") definitely doesn't warm my heart. First reaction was to delete the comment. Second reaction was to track down this person's information and go all Brooklyn on them on social media. I guess my feelings aren't the brick wall I thought they were?

If there was someone who would take time out of their day to continue to berate my blog, what about Bloggers who are deeper in the game than I am? I headed on over to some of my favorites and took the time to go through the comments. Reading some of the things that I read would make Hulk Hogan himself cry in a corner. People go full on Regina George. Unfortunately, the internet can be like Mean Girls, minus the funny Tina Fey writing.

Yet these idiotic, immature comments have never slowed these Bloggers down. They keep on keepin' on, and ignore the anonymous, which is the opposite reaction these people want. It's quite admirable  and sends a great message to those who follow along. Just another reason why I freakin' love Bloggers.

To fight fire with fire wouldn't make me any better than anonymous. Plus, what am I going to say about this person that hiding behind a computer, writing mean comments to Bloggers doesn't already say about their character? They can burn themselves into the ground with hate, but I ain't joining them.

Clearly, I'm not the first person to receive hateful comments, and although it was my first experience, it probably won't be the last. Sure, some say it comes with the territory of putting yourself out there, and I get it, but that doesn't make it any easier to swallow. Chances are these anonymous people don't have the guts to share their life with the internet and they're hiding from something, because if they weren't, they wouldn't be taking shelter under their computer. So anonymous people, we get it. Life can be difficult, and you're not making it easier on others, but more importantly, you're not making it easier on yourself. * Cue in Puff Daddy's "Can't Hold Me Down." *

And not to sound cliche, but really... get a life.

How do you deal with hate comments?

4 comments:

  1. I try my hardest to just remember that their rude comments are their problem, not my own. I'm just being myself & writing from the heart & not everyone has to like it. I'll never understand people who go out of their way to be mean and hurtful though!

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  2. Jill, I think youre great! Ignore the comments.. they are cowards behind a computer who are deflecting their own issues. Keep on blogging -- I love reading your posts!

    xox - Taylor
    www.trendyschmendy.com

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  3. geeeez! at least come up with an insult that makes sense! what an idiot! keep on truckin' baby boo. i always thought one way to measure if you've made it is to get hate mail. lol. you know LC told me some ppl don't think we are real friends and that it's all for show for the internet. LOL. isn't that crazy? like i would invite some fake friend to get ready with me at my house in my closet just so i can post a photo? bonkers.

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  4. Love your advice and confidence! haven't gotten any hate comments yet, but a blogger friend disabled comments on her blog after that. I don't think I could do that, but I might just delete it if I feel its poisoning the page, and contact them directly if they have a problem.

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